A Parent’s Guide to Stan Culture
Have you noticed your teenager’s growing obsession with their favourite celebrity?
They may be experiencing a parasocial relationship.
Parasocial relationships are one-sided connections that fans develop with celebrities. In today’s world of stan culture, following the lives of famous people has become increasingly popular. Thanks to the internet, accessing celebrities’ private lives has become easier than ever before.
Teenagers being fans of celebrities is a common part of life. Most of us have experienced a brief infatuation or adoration for a celeb. But since we came from a simpler time, were we in the same danger as teens are today?
Following celebrities on social media, joining fan groups, and making friends within those communities have become increasingly prevalent.
However, there is a darker side to this phenomenon that we need to be aware of.
Isolating themselves from reality, becoming obsessive, and experiencing mood and personality changes based on the private lives of artists are signs of an alarming trend among teenagers.
This growing epidemic is known as stan culture.
But what exactly is a “stan”?
The term was coined by rapper Eminem in 2000 with his song “Stan.” The song follows the story of an obsessed fan named Stan who eventually takes his own life and that of his pregnant girlfriend due to Eminem’s perceived lack of response to fan mail. This tragic tale introduced the concept of a “stan” into pop culture.
Today, mega fans proudly identify themselves as “stans” and use the term “stanning” to describe their extreme devotion to an artist. Unfortunately, these parasocial relationships can lead to a sense of entitlement among fans, causing jealousy, resentment, disappointment, and anger when celebrities engage in controversial relationships or make choices that don’t align with fans’ expectations.
Why are parasocial relationships so dangerous?
While being a fan can lead to new friendships and provide enjoyment, they can also contribute to serious mental health issues such as depression and anxiety. Some individuals may experience limerence, a state of unrequited love or infatuation often associated with autism or neurodivergence.
Parasocial relationships can also give rise to legal problems, including stalking, slander, and defamation. This leads us to the concept of “the anti-fan,” a term used to describe people who harbour negative feelings towards a celebrity.
Moreover, these relationships can cultivate toxic behaviour driven by unrealistic expectations, as fans may unknowingly cross boundaries due to a misguided sense of friendship. This emotional dependence can have detrimental effects.
What fuels this behaviour?
Websites like Deuxmoi and Crazy Days and Nights have gained a massive amount of followers by sharing insider information and gossip about celebrities. These websites provide fans with an opportunity to delve into the private lives of their favourite stars.
In an era of cancel culture, the internet often amplifies artists’ wrongdoings, even if they occurred years ago or are taken out of context. This hyper-dramatisation further fuels parasocial relationships, making them potentially more dangerous.
What action should parents take?
As parents, it is crucial to guide our children towards healthy boundaries when it comes to their admiration for celebrities. Encourage open conversations about their interests and help them understand the distinction between a healthy appreciation and an obsession that negatively impacts their health and relationships.
It can be challenging for parents to discern harmless trends from potentially dangerous behaviours among Gen Z and Alpha. By staying informed about stan culture and parasocial relationships, we can support our teenagers in navigating these complex feelings while ensuring their emotional and mental well-being.
Self-esteem
Recognise that parasocial relationships can influence your teen’s self-esteem and body image. Celebrities often project an idealised image, and when teenagers compare themselves to these unrealistic standards, it can lead to feelings of inadequacy and lower self-worth.
Balance
Emphasise the importance of maintaining a balance between online interactions with celebrities and real-life relationships. Encourage them to engage in activities and spend time with friends and family in person, fostering healthy social connections.
Encouraging critical thinking
Highlight the significance of developing critical thinking skills and media literacy. Teach them to question the authenticity of the information they encounter online and to be mindful of the influence of media manipulation and celebrity PR campaigns.
Professional help
If you notice that your teenager’s parasocial relationship is severely impacting their well-being and mental health, it may be necessary to seek professional help. Provide information on how to recognise when it’s time to involve a mental health professional, such as persistent signs of distress, social withdrawal, or a decline in academic performance.
Positive aspects
While discussing the potential dangers, it’s essential to acknowledge the positive aspects of being part of a fandom community. Fandoms can provide a sense of belonging, shared interests, and opportunities for creativity and self-expression. Encourage your teen to engage in healthy aspects of fandom, such as creating fan art, participating in positive discussions, and constructively supporting their favourite artists.
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